“You’re a sore loser,” someone said at the family gathering. And that was even before the fun family game had started.
NLP stands for “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” and, in short, means that your brain’s neurological function—or your mind—is programmed through the language you’re exposed to. And the more often you hear either yourself or others apply certain labels to you, the more it becomes a belief that you carry with you.
If the labels you hear are positive, they have a strengthening and uplifting effect on your self-esteem; if they are negative, they have a destructive effect on your self-esteem.
In NLP, we operate on the premise that this programming can occur at various levels, namely:
1) Environment (Where are you, and when?)
2) Behavior (What are you doing?)
3) Abilities and skills (What are you capable of?)
4) Values and Beliefs (What do you believe in? Why is this important to you?)
5) Identity (Who are you in this situation?)
6) Spirituality (Who or what is greater than you?)
The subconscious takes everything literally
“You’re a pathetic loser” is my father’s belief about me, which he has instilled in me throughout my entire upbringing. What he doesn’t know is that those words aren’t just his belief about my ability to participate in cozy family games, but that they actually seep in and tell my subconscious that I am 1) bad and 2) a loser… (or perhaps: You’re bad IF you lose… which creates a self-reinforcing effect, since visible frustration will then arise.) Because the subconscious takes everything completely literally. It doesn’t understand irony, teasing, or jokes. It steps in and programs—right down to the level of identity.
What my father also doesn’t know is that EVERY time he says that, my body reacts physically with a sharp pain in both my stomach and my heart. Again, it’s my subconscious mind that’s busy programming me to believe that I am 1) a bad person and 2) a loser.
Healing the Inner Child
Fortunately, my higher self objects to this label, and I try to the best of my ability to mend the wounds my subconscious has suffered. I do this by caring for my inner child. I simply visualize my adult self stepping in to stroke my inner child’s hair, holding it close to me, kissing it on the forehead, and saying, “You’re good just the way you are, and I love you.” Just as I do with my own children.
It’s an effective strategy, though it requires repetition every time the subconscious comes under attack. At the same time, I help my subconscious mind build new, positive beliefs by, for example, telling myself, “I am positive, empathetic, and radiate energy—regardless of the outcome of the game,” and “I am happy and enthusiastic when I play.”
Do you also need to heal your inner child—whatever it is that your subconscious has taken on? If so, I’d be happy to help you through the process so you can feel stronger and more balanced within yourself.
Book an appointment by phone at 30 16 30 80
Or send an email to carina@staerktsind.dk
www.bastet-balance.dk
“You’re a sore loser,” someone said at the family gathering. And that was even before the fun family game had started.
NLP stands for “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” and, in short, means that your brain’s neurological function—or your mind—is programmed through the language you’re exposed to. And the more often you hear either yourself or others apply certain labels to you, the more it becomes a belief that you carry with you.
If the labels you hear are positive, they have a strengthening and uplifting effect on your self-esteem; if they are negative, they have a destructive effect on your self-esteem.
In NLP, we operate on the premise that this programming can occur at various levels, namely:
1) Environment (Where are you, and when?)
2) Behavior (What are you doing?)
3) Abilities and skills (What are you capable of?)
4) Values and Beliefs (What do you believe in? Why is this important to you?)
5) Identity (Who are you in this situation?)
6) Spirituality (Who or what is greater than you?)
The subconscious takes everything literally
“You’re a pathetic loser” is my father’s belief about me, which he has instilled in me throughout my entire upbringing. What he doesn’t know is that those words aren’t just his belief about my ability to participate in cozy family games, but that they actually seep in and tell my subconscious that I am 1) bad and 2) a loser… (or perhaps: You’re bad IF you lose… which creates a self-reinforcing effect, since visible frustration will then arise.) Because the subconscious takes everything completely literally. It doesn’t understand irony, teasing, or jokes. It steps in and programs—right down to the level of identity.
What my father also doesn’t know is that EVERY time he says that, my body reacts physically with a sharp pain in both my stomach and my heart. Again, it’s my subconscious mind that’s busy programming me to believe that I am 1) a bad person and 2) a loser.
Healing the Inner Child
Fortunately, my higher self objects to this label, and I try to the best of my ability to mend the wounds my subconscious has suffered. I do this by caring for my inner child. I simply visualize my adult self stepping in to stroke my inner child’s hair, holding it close to me, kissing it on the forehead, and saying, “You’re good just the way you are, and I love you.” Just as I do with my own children.
It’s an effective strategy, though it requires repetition every time the subconscious comes under attack. At the same time, I help my subconscious mind build new, positive beliefs by, for example, telling myself, “I am positive, empathetic, and radiate energy—regardless of the outcome of the game,” and “I am happy and enthusiastic when I play.”
Do you also need to heal your inner child—whatever it is that your subconscious has taken on? If so, I’d be happy to help you through the process so you can feel stronger and more balanced within yourself.
Book an appointment by phone at 30 16 30 80
Or send an email to carina@staerktsind.dk
www.bastet-balance.dk